Iran’s Attack on Israel
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No engagements, but tons of potential. Let’s hope there’s a second season!
Stuart goes out with a comedian. Nakysha is smitten with her new date, and Noah meets someone who is visiting Israel on a birthright program.
In this episode, Stuart meets Pamela, a professional comedian. He considers himself funny, so he really appreciates when someone who makes a living telling jokes can laugh at his.
While they play a flirtatious game of ping pong, Pamela reveals that she is much funnier onstage, and that she has Tourette’s syndrome. He asks her, “When did you realize you were funny?”
She answers, “I am still not totally sure.”
Stuart shares that his music really reveals a lot about his life story. She agrees and thinks comedians can and do share about their personal lives, as well.
Pamela is happy with the date and says, “I have not laughed this much on a date in a long time.”
Stuart also feels a connection. “We have lots in common. She is down to Earth, and easy to talk to. It would be great if she’s the one. I want to see her again.”
Evan brings Nakysha flowers on their first date, and immediately compliments her. “You look amazing, I love your hair.”
They hit it off and find a lot of common ground. They both love to dance and travel and he is fine with her love of motorcycles.
It has been a long time since both of them have been on a date. Nakysha says, “I’m very picky. You are doing well so far, I really like you.”
As far as Nakysha is concerned, the deal is sealed when Evan tells her he does not cook, but he loves to clean.
Nakysha practically bursts as she says, “I am feeling really giddy. Aleeza nailed this. We match up perfectly like a puzzle. And he has hair! In the future I am hoping to see us flourish. I think we will get along great.”
Noah refuses to go on another blind date after his time with Alyssa. He sees a picture of Gabriela and approves. She is more his look. The only issue is that she is 5’3”.
They talk about how they both hate techno music, and both think that between the beach and a pool, they would choose the pool.
Gabriela is a holistic health coach who does not fully agree with standard medicine.
Noah is turned off by this approach and explains, “I come from Italy. I love doctors, and my family is very much into science. I cannot take someone like that home to my parents.”
One and done.
He ends the scene with a statement that rings true for all serious daters. “The next person I date, I hope will be my last.”
Aleeza then sets Noah up with Tav. They meet on Aleeza’s balcony, at her home in Israel.
Tav’s mother is Israeli, but she is from Scottsdale, Arizona. Tav is also half Yemenite.
They both talk about their backgrounds, where they want to live, and discuss Noah’s famous question—pool or beach. Tav prefers the beach (uh-oh…).
Noah expresses that it is hard to make a living there because of the high cost of living.
Noah is very interested in Tav. He felt like he was hanging out with a friend—exactly what he was looking for.
They go out again, and they talk more about family. Tav is really close to hers. Noah shares that his family is somewhat explosive and reveals that his parents divorced when he was sixteen.
Noah wants to get married around 30. Tav feels there is a greater pressure on women. “If you are 30 and not married…”
Noah finishes her sentence, “it is more of a game over.”
They both see and feel a connection and want to continue dating. They know it will be long-distance, but plan to give it a chance and go with the flow.
Here are 8 lessons that we can learn from this episode as Season 1 ends.
1. Do not get caught up in the details. Sometimes we think details are deal breakers, but it does not have to be that way. Just because a person loves holistic medicine, it does not mean she is not able to marry someone who is into science and modern medicine. We have to learn to adapt and bend ourselves more. This will enable us to give different types of people a chance.
2. Compliment your date. Evan complimented Nakysha immediately. It created a positive atmosphere and it eased her nerves right off the bat. Such a compliment costs you nothing, but it means so much to the recipient. It also sets the date on the right path.
3. Even if you are dating for marriage, it is important to have fun. You do not want to conduct your date like an interview. Showing your date that you know how to have a good time is crucial for getting through future challenges together. So much of life with a spouse involves having fun with that person.
4. Be open-minded. Stuart dates Pamela, who has Tourette’s syndrome. He is able to see past her physical challenge and connect with her on a deeper level. No one is perfect; try to look beyond immediate external imperfections.
5. Get serious. Noah shares that he hopes to get married by 30, but he is only 24. If you want to get married in six years, that is not really dating for marriage. Be honest and realistic with what you are looking for. Otherwise, you are leading someone on who is hoping to get married in a much shorter timeframe.
6. You do not have all the time in the world. People go from 25 to 30 in the snap of a finger. People are shocked that after only one or two serious relationships, their best years have already passed. Age is a strong determinant of who you can go out with.
7. There is always room for growth. Evan does not see himself as a ten, because he always wants to improve. Do not consider yourself to be perfect; be open and excited to always be growing and improving. A spouse acts as a mirror and will eventually show you your flaws. The more you work on them beforehand, the happier your marriage will be.
8. Marriage makes you more of what you already are. People think marriage will solve problems, but that is simply not true. Aleeza feels her job is not to get her clients married; but rather to keep them married. The more they are prepared and realistic about marriage beforehand, the better the experience will be.
Aleeza concludes by saying that she has the hardest job in the world. Yet she reiterates that there is nothing she would rather do. She ends the episode with a blessing:
May each and every one of you, who is searching for your soulmate, find your soulmate. May you gracefully get through the dating and relationship process, and may you have clarity that it is the right person. May you get married with ease and build a beautiful family and home together.
And now you say “Amen.”
Click here to meet Aleeza Ben Shalom in Sarah Pachter's interview with the star of Jewish Matchmaking. Watch as they review dating tips and discuss the Netflix series.
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