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It's your wife's birthday. Orchids are her favorite flower. A bouquet is going to set you back about $150.
You have a series of choices:
Now isn't #5 the most rational answer? Didn't we evolve out of the barter system so that we got what we wanted instead of three sheep and two pounds of potatoes when we sold the family cow?
How is it that this ancient custom of guessing and agonizing over a present still remains?
In this week's Torah portion we read about sacrifices, which to the modern ear sounds very strange. But in truth it shouldn't be, because it's not the concept that is the problem, it's the translation.
The Hebrew word used for sacrifice is "korbon." As Rabbi Shimshon Raphael Hirsch (19th century German leader) points out, korbon has its roots in the concept of "being close." No word in the English language approaches a good translation, though conceptually it's what we call a present.
When you give your wife a gift, it isn't a sacrifice (at least it shouldn't be). It isn't even the most effective way of getting her what she wants - give her the cash.
So why do we do it?
What a spouse really wants in a present is that you care, more than what they actually want. And care is evidenced through trying to figure out what you really want.
Essentially, you care enough to think about it
I know what I like, I might know what you have liked in the past. That's easy because you tell me. But figuring out what you will like -- that's a challenge! There is only one way to know that.
And the more you care, the more you will understand what your spouse likes and thinks. And the more you do that, the closer you become.
We can't become close to someone we don't understand.
We can't become close to a God we don't understand. If we don't know what they like, we don't know them. God likes Korbonos.
WHY THE BLOOD AND GUTS?
It's two days till your birthday and your ten year old son asks for $20.
Because he wants to buy you a Buzz Lightyear reading lamp as a present.
Isn't this a waste of money?
Is there anything your son can buy you with your own money that you really want?
Similarly, is there anything we can give to God, using His world?
The only thing we can possibly give God, or anyone, is a piece of ourselves.
It's not the lamp you will enjoy - it's the piece of your son in the lamp.
How do we give a piece of ourselves?
Caring is understanding what they like, love and need.
Understanding means you get it. You get why they like it.
And you can't do that without liking it too.
Less than that and you just don't understand. Less than that means you aren't giving enough to care.
Your spouse doesn't need you to buy them the flowers or even the wrench set. Similarly, God can sacrifice His own animals. The only thing no one can have, unless I give it, is me. And that's all I have to give.
GOD CARES ABOUT BLOOD AND GUTS?
Allow me to explain.
Take the wristwatch off your arm and unscrew the back. Don't try this at home.
Now take out all the parts and lay them out on the table. Then, put them all back together again. I told you not to try this at home.
Ok, take them to a watch maker and have them put it all back together again.
Then take a cow, take it apart. Really don't try this at home, and do the same thing.
How do all the parts of a cow, sheep, goat, even us, all work when it's impossible for them to work once we take them apart? That is what you see in a korbon. When you see that, you realize what a gift of life we have. No engineer can put all the parts together to make what was once standing and breathing a few minutes ago.
Life is an amazing gift of such magnitude, words do not exist to explain its true meaning.
When you realize how amazing life is, you will realize what a gift it is. The most precious gift. And that is what God loves. Life.
The more you appreciate life, the more you understand God. It is a wonderful cycle of gratitude, giving and closeness.
And it is the perfect antidote to the petty selfishness that we often fall victim to.
When you see how amazing life is, that all our parts function and work in a way that makes human understanding sound like an oxymoron, then you will realize how much God has given you. And you will understand God (to the degree possible).
And when you understand God you will feel closer to Him. Why, because you care about what he cares about.