Without a Grudge
Be'halot'cha (Numbers 8-12 )
"Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent free inside your head."
But in reality, how easy is it to let go of resentment when someone wrongs us? To truly forgive and forget and move on with no hard feelings?
We are commanded not to bear a grudge, (see Vayikra 19:18) but this often requires great effort and humility.
In this week's Torah portion we see Moses taking this command to the next level. He actually helps the person who has wronged him!
When his sister Miriam was punished with leprosy after speaking out against him, amazingly, just a few verses later we find Moses begging God for her recovery.
“Moses cried to God saying ‘Please God, heal her!” (Bamidbar 12:13)
Not only does he not resent her, but he tries to help her.
It's a level of giving that we can aspire to. When someone is in pain, and that someone may have truly harmed us, to be able to put our egos to the side, and to help them regardless*.
To be the bigger person.
Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent free inside your head – let them out, and love them anyway.
*in a safe way.