GOOD MORNING! It is quite remarkable to me that here we are in the “enlightened” 21^st century and one can still wake up to headlines in national Jewish news outlets like “Kanye goes full Nazi.” Here you have an internationally known personality who proudly makes outrageous statements like, “There’s a lot of things I love about Hitler,” “I see good things about Hitler,” and “The holocaust is not what happened.”

It is quite obvious to me (and most people paying attention) that he is deranged. Not that I have any background in mental health, but seeing him make all of our politicians look sane by comparison allows me to feel comfortable with diagnosing him as “completely unhinged.” While mental illness is not something we should take lightly, we have to hold people responsible for overt acts or comments that are just beyond the pale. Being “off meds” is a thoroughly unacceptable excuse.

Of course this whole craziness (yes, pun intended) reminds me of the following joke. Two Jewish men sat on a park bench reading newspapers. One man, reading the Jewish Telegraph, was astonished to see his friend reading the Nazi Press. “How can you, a Jew, read that garbage?” he questioned.

"Why not?" replied the other. “When I read Jewish newspapers, all I read about is antisemitism, the political infighting in the State of Israel, acts of vandalism on Jewish institutions, and how everybody generally hates us. Reading them makes me depressed. But when I read the Nazi newspaper, I see only good things. We Jews own Hollywood, we control the media and banks, and we are all doctors and lawyers. It makes me feel really good!”

Crazy as it seems (again, intended), there is an amazing connection with Kan“Ye” and this week’s Torah reading. But first I need to explain the difference between an archenemy and a nemesis. An archenemy is someone who seeks your absolute destruction; think Joker vs. Batman or Lex Luther vs. Superman (or, unfortunately, Iran vs. Israel and most of the rest of the world). On the other hand, a nemesis can be a rival who motivates you to succeed and excel; think Magic Johnson and Larry Bird or Coke and Pepsi.

Rivalry should motivate one to grow in ways that he wouldn’t have otherwise achieved organically. A prime example is when Nike, desperate for an advantage over a surging Reebok, signed a college basketball player named Michael Jordan and, as they say, the rest is history.

The same is true for individuals. Research shows that long-distance runners are about 5 seconds per kilometer faster when one of their top rivals is in the race. Competing against a rival fires up your motivation and pushes you to greater heights. Building a supportive relationship with that rival can further elevate your performance.

Conversely, an archenemy is so focused on total annihilation that there’s no room for growth. If the distinction still seems confusing, just ask a woman in your life to explain it to you. Men often fail to grasp this concept and thus remain mired in mediocrity.

Women, however, have always intuitively grasped the nemesis/archenemy dichotomy. Most women have had at least one person in their lives whose seemingly sole purpose in life is to criticize her actions, compete for the attention of others, and generally drive her crazy. Often this is the woman’s best friend. Seriously.

Historically, the Jewish people have also had an archenemy; the nation of Amalek. The Torah recounts a surprise attack that Amalek used to blindside the Jewish people as they left Egypt.

Our sages mention a very interesting insight regarding the Amalekite attack. In retelling the incident, the Torah uses the Hebrew word “korcha – attacked you.” The sages point out that this word has its etymological roots in the Hebrew word “kor,” which means cool.

In other words, through this attack the Amalekites “cooled off” the Jewish people. Meaning, after hearing and seeing all the incredible miracles that God had done for the Jewish people as they left Egypt (the ten plagues, the splitting of the Red Sea, and the utter defeat of the Egyptian army), all the other nations feared the Jewish people and wouldn’t consider fighting them. However, Amalek’s attack “cooled them off” and showed the other nations that it was possible to mount a war against the Jewish nation.

The sages continue with the following analogy: There was a bath that was scalding hot to the point that it was unusable. One fellow came along and jumped into the bath and got severely burned. Nevertheless, once he jumped in he succeeded in cooling it sufficiently to be usable for others.

Likewise, Amalek’s suicidal attack on us was done with the express intent of “cooling us” to the point where other nations were able to conceive of the idea that they too could fight us. Thus, their purpose was the destruction of the Jewish people, even at the cost of their very own lives.

This brings us back to Kan“Ye” – a 21^st century example of the same behavior. Here you have someone who is willing to destroy himself, his reputation, and the last twenty years of hard work. Because of his ongoing antisemitism and antisemitic diatribes, his business partnerships have all but evaporated. This has resulted in his estimated personal net worth falling precipitously – reportedly already down over 75% and continuing to plummet. However, this financial self-immolation hasn’t even slowed his continuing crusade of antisemitism, and it has cooled the water for others to follow, like Kyrie Irving.

Still, nations aren’t merely born archenemies and yet the Amalekites attacked the Jewish people in a suicidal manner. What is the source of Amalek’s deep antipathy and hatred that drove them to attack, even at the very cost of their very lives? In this week’s Torah reading we find the answer.

“And Timnah was a concubine of Elifaz, son of Eisav, and she bore to Elifaz Amalek” (Genesis 36:12).

The Talmud (Sanhedrin 99b) relates that Timnah, who eventually became a wife to Elifaz (son of Eisav), was of royal lineage. Timnah was the daughter of kings, but she rejected her royal position in order to marry into the family of Abraham. (A modern equivalent would be King Edward VIII of the United Kingdom who rejected his royal position to marry an American divorcée.)

The Talmud goes on to explain that Timnah originally wanted to convert and marry into the house of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob but was repeatedly turned away. Undeterred, she declared, “It is preferable to be a handmaiden to this nation than to be a noblewoman in any other nation.”

Thus, she became a concubine to Elifaz who was from the house Abraham; he was Isaac’s grandson and Jacob’s nephew. Ultimately, her union with Elifaz led to the birth of Amalek. The Talmud seems to make a stunning criticism of our forefathers; “Why did she give birth to Amalek who caused such suffering to the Jewish people? Because they should not have rejected her.”

Yet, it is still difficult to fathom how someone who professed such admiration of the Jewish nation could birth a child who would grow up to be the archenemy of the Jewish people. In addition, Elifaz, who was the father of Amalek, was “raised on the lap of Isaac,” which was why he refused to do his father’s bidding and kill Jacob (Genesis 29:11).

How is it possible that a mother who gave up everything to connect with the Jewish people and a father who was the best of Eisav’s children could beget a child whose nation would seek the destruction of the Jewish people throughout the ages?

The most basic element of humanity is the need to connect. Rashi (Sanhedrin 99b) explains that the mistake of the forefathers was that they “pushed her (Timnah) away from the (sheltering embrace) of the Almighty and that they should have converted her.” In other words, even though they didn’t want her to marry into the family they should not have rejected her desire to be connected to Hashem.

This concept is key: The most basic element of humanity is the need to connect. This is what drives the search for love and the search for a relationship with a “higher power.” Elementally, everyone desires to “belong.” This is the basis for being a part of a community, a club, or a certain clique. It is critical to the development of mankind because being connected as individuals allows for a much greater whole.

This strength is expressed on the Great Seal of the United States: E Pluribus Unum – out of many, one. This means that the strength of the country stems from diversity becoming a unified entity.

This foundation of mankind, that of acceptance and connection, is vital to our emotional well-being. The flip side – being rejected – is devastating to our emotional well-being. Rejection leads to intense surges in anger and aggression. In 2001, the Surgeon General of the U.S. issued a report stating that rejection was a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang membership.

This is why ideals that are often nearly identical in their source, once they have rejected one another (such as the Shiite and Sunni varieties of Islam), become mortal enemies – constantly trying to wipe each other out. The very existence of the other is a constant and debilitating reminder of the original rejection.

Our forefathers’ rejection of Timnah was so devastating to her that it far overwhelmed any appreciation she had for them. As Rashi points out, they should have at least encouraged her to be connected to Hashem, as this would have seemingly mitigated part of the rejection.

They did not, and therefore her only child, Amalek, made it his life’s mission to avenge that rejection and repay those who caused his mother pain. The seemingly minor act of rejecting Timnah is the source of 3500 years of Jewish persecution and suffering perpetuated by the nation of Amalek.

Vayishlach, Genesis 32:4 – 36:43

On a trip back to Canaan, Jacob meets his brother Eisav; Jacob wrestles with the angel. Then they arrive in Shechem. Shechem, the son of Chamor the Hivite, (heir to the town of Shechem) rapes Jacob’s daughter, Dina. Dina’s brothers, Shimon and Levy, massacre the men of Shechem. Rebecca (Rivka) dies; God gives Jacob an additional name, “Israel,” and reaffirms the blessing to Abraham that the land of Canaan (Israel) will be given to his descendants. Rachel dies after giving birth to Benjamin (Binyomin). Jacob’s 12 sons are listed. Isaac dies. Eisav’s lineage is recorded as is that of Seir the Horite. Finally, the succession of the Kings of Edom is chronicled.