8 Reasons Why You Need to Get Away with Your Spouse

Every year, my husband and I take a holiday – just the two of us. These trips, no matter how short, have left a lasting, positive imprint on our relationship.

Here are eight ways small getaways can reset your marriage.

1. You see a new side of your spouse.

At home, you each play your roles. Away from the daily grind, different parts of you emerge. I discovered my husband is unexpectedly friendly even out of his element; he discovered I’m more adventurous than he realized. After years of marriage, it’s refreshing to be surprised by each other.

2. You try things you’ve never done together.

Novelty fuels connection. Before these trips, we’d never swum together in the Mediterranean Sea or climbed all the way to the top of the Eiffel Tower. Shared firsts create energy that you carry back into everyday life.

3. You create happy memories that become emotional anchors.

Couples who build and revisit positive memories enjoy stronger, more resilient marriages. We love scrolling through photos and reliving the moments that made us laugh, breathe, and reconnect on our holidays together.

4. You break the cycle of monotony.

As the years pass, days can blur into each other. A holiday interrupts that cycle, offering you a new point of reference. We look forward to our early summer trip all year -- warmth, kids still in school, and a pocket of time that belongs only to us.

5. You remember why you fell in love.

Romance can get buried under work, carpools, and laundry. On holiday, it resurfaces on a long walk by the sea, over a slow dinner, or simply in the quiet of being unhurried together.

6. You rest, eat, and breathe at the same pace.

It sounds simple, but shared rest is deeply bonding. When you’re both sleeping well, eating well, and relaxing side by side, your nervous systems begin to co‑regulate. Your whole relationship eases when your bodies finally have a chance to exhale together.

7. You experience awe together.

Whether it’s a breathtaking view, a historic site, or the vastness of the ocean, awe expands us. And when you experience it together, it deepens your sense of being a team navigating a beautiful world.

8. You can be intimate without worrying about the kids suddenly appearing.

With a house full of kids, it can be difficult to truly relax and let your guard down. Going away allows you to let go and become close in a way that you may not be able to do at home.

Whether it’s one night or a full week, carving out time alone is essential maintenance for the most important relationship in your life.