How Shabbat Saved Me

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December 1, 2025

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When life hit hard, Shabbat became my reset button.

Growing up, I didn’t keep Shabbat. I didn’t slow down. Weekends were just another chance to keep moving — more noise, more motion, more running. I never gave God, or even my own inner voice, a chance to break through the blur.

But life has a way of cornering you with the lessons you avoid. And for me, that lesson was simple: I needed a weekly pause. A real one — not sleep, not zoning out, but actual space. Clarity. A day where the world stops tugging at you long enough for you to rebuild from the inside.

That’s what Shabbat became for me, almost quietly at first. And then unmistakably.

The first time I kept it fully, I remember thinking: This is what I’ve been missing. That weekly separation from the noise didn’t just slow me down — it gave me back parts of myself I didn’t even notice I’d lost. My thoughts settled. My priorities untangled. My mind cleared in a way I hadn’t felt in decades.

And then, recently, I got a reminder of why Shabbat matters so much.

I was deep in the writing process — one of those rare stretches where everything aligns, and the exact idea you’ve been searching for finally appears. And of course, it happened about half an hour before Shabbat.

Instantly I knew: this wasn’t “bad timing.”
This was God asking a very direct question:
Do you trust Me enough to stop? Even now?

I scribbled down the key point, stepped away from the computer, and let Shabbat begin. My wife lit candles. The house shifted tone. I tried to let go.

It wasn’t easy. The idea kept pulling at me. But slowly — through the quiet of the table, the songs, the kids, the total absence of screens, and the presence of something higher — the urgency melted. The idea didn’t fade. It settled.

And when Shabbat ended and I returned to it, I wrote it with a clarity I never would have had if I had pushed through earlier.

That experience taught me something sharp: Sometimes God gives you the insight before Shabbat so that the real clarity can come after Shabbat.

Our sages say Shabbat is “a taste of the World to Come.” But it’s also a taste of something our generation barely remembers: uninterrupted thought. True presence. A mind that isn’t buzzing like an overheating phone.

Rabbi Sampson Raphael Hirsch wrote that real rest isn’t collapsing — it’s alignment. It’s returning to yourself after a week of losing track of what actually matters. That resonated with me, because for most of my life, I wasn’t running toward anything — I was just running.

Shabbat stopped that.

Now it’s the anchor of my week.
Time with my family that actually feels like time.
Time with Torah that grounds me.
Time with myself that I would never give myself otherwise.
Time with God that feels close instead of theoretical.

Shabbat reminds me I don’t run the world. I don’t even need to run my own life every minute of every day. I can let go — and in that letting go, I rediscover balance.

Judaism was never meant to exhaust us. It was meant to steady us. Shabbat forces you to stop before you break. It teaches you that rest isn’t the opposite of work — it’s what allows the work to matter at all.

And in many ways, it saved me.
Not dramatically. Not all at once.
But in that quiet, consistent way God often saves us:
one week, one pause, one breath at a time.

If Shabbat taught me anything, it’s this:
The world can wait.
Your soul shouldn’t have to.

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Batia
Batia
7 months ago

Beautiful

Rachel
Rachel
8 months ago

I’m happy for everyone who has this experience of Shabbat. However, it would be helpful to offer suggestions for those of us who are so exhausted by the time we prepare for Shabbat that it’s a time to collapse after shopping, cooking, cleaning. As the person responsible for these tasks, it’s hard to enjoy the evening when one just wants to take a nap!

Batia
Batia
7 months ago
Reply to  Rachel

Hi Rachel,

You asked for suggestions, so I will try:

1. Start preparing earlier in the week. For example: go shopping on Sunday, prepare soup on Wednesday, etc.. Cook in advance and freeze what can be frozen. Aim to finish most prep by Thurs evening.

2. Simplify. If you're preparing eight dips by hand, pare down to three. Make one main dish, instead of two. Eliminate anything that has to be prepared or fried individually (eg stuffed cabbage or elaborate roll-ups). Buy challah and desert instead of making it by hand.

3. Get help. Delegate some cooking or cleaning tasks, if possible. Cultivate a happy atmosphere of preparing for Shabbos. If you can afford cleaning help, consider hiring help for a couple of hours on Thursday or Friday - this can make a major difference.

Batia
Batia
7 months ago
Reply to  Rachel

One more:

4. Take care of yourself. If possible, take a nap on Friday afternoon before Shabbos. Schedule a manicure for Friday morning or afternoon, for after all the preparations are done. If your husband is not available, is it possible for you to hire a babysitter for a couple of hours on Friday morning so you can relax and take care of yourself?

Be well and hatzlacha!

Meryl Shabani
Meryl Shabani
8 months ago

I absolutely love reading these words, I couldn’t have said it better! Every word is resonating. I also started keeping shabbat not too long ago and if somehow I am unable to keep it it will change my whole week end and week ahead. It is the most grounding time, and true family quality hours, with a focus on what truly matters. I am so thankful for Shabbat!

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