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August 14, 2018 | by Adrienne Gold

Six things I would tell my 40-year-old self.

In one week I will turn 60! I am neither traumatized nor self-conscious! I am EXCITED!!

I asked myself what six things I would tell my 40-year-old self if I could have? The following are my “Gold Nuggets." I am grateful to be able to share them.

1. Attach yourself to the pursuit of wisdom. This 'occupation' has no expiry date and only improves with age. You will always feel vital because the opposite of old is not young! The opposite of old is NEW!!!

2. Be scrupulously self-honest. Rationalization is like re-arranging deck chairs on the Titanic; that ship/rational lie is going down anyway so don't waste your time! Do the work/make that change/apology/readjustment now!

3. Recognize that your challenges are not things to be ashamed of. They are the neon signs pointing to you to your purpose/work in this lifetime! And so are your strengths! (Remember: we marry our homework or give birth to it/parent it.)

4. Open up your tent (on all sides!). Hospitality is the simplest path to humility; and humility is the doorway to joy. You will be your best self when hosting people. Forget just being 'yourself'. Be your 'best self'!

5. Engage your senses liberally. Listen to and play music. Enjoy the scents that please you most. Touch that cashmere/velvet/silk/skin. Laugh out loud! Enjoy your food!

6. Search for the goodness and beauty in every person that is put in your path (especially the 'difficult' ones). Aspire to approach interactions with the goal of Unity without Uniformity. This means that we seek out what unites us, not what divides us. You don't have to agree or even approve of the 'other'. You don't have to stamp 'kosher' on something you think is not kosher. But neither may you demonize/mock/scorn/disrespect/refuse to listen/de-humanize the 'other'. Every single human being has something to teach you. Don't miss the opportunity to grow!

What would you tell your younger self? Share in the comment section below.


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