Sukkot (Leviticus 22:26-23:44 )
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GOOD MORNING! Rabbi Joey Grunfeld once related to me a story of the time he was asked to give a guest sermon in a synagogue in South Africa. He asked the rabbi if there was any particularly sensitive topic that he should avoid. The rabbi replied, "No, speak about whatever you like. My congregation are all yenemites." Rabbi Grunfeld was totally puzzled by the rabbi's answer, but accepted it and gave a rousing sermon. After the services, he and the rabbi were standing at the door of the synagogue greeting the parishioners as they left. One member told Rabbi Grunfeld, "That was a fantastic sermon. It was just what the guy sitting next to me needed to hear!" The synagogue's rabbi turned to Rabbi Grunfeld and said, "See, they are all yenemites. Everything they hear is for yenem, (the Yiddish word for) 'the other guy.' "
___In some respects, we are all yenemites. For instance, this week's Question & Answer on honoring one's parents, I am sure will be met with, "Thank God, this is just what I needed to give to my kids to read!" No! This is meant for you. This is just what your parents are excited about for you to read!
Q & A: WHAT IS THE MITZVAH OF HONORING
ONE'S PARENTS AND HOW IS IT FULFILLED?
___Included in the Ten Commandments, is the mitzvah (commandment) to honor your father and mother. The Torah writes: "Honor your father and your mother so that your days may be lengthened upon the Land which the Lord your God gives to you" (Exodus 20:12). Later in Deuteronomy, in the restating of the Ten Commandments, the verse reads: "Honor your father and your mother as the Lord your God has commanded you in order that your days may be lengthened and that it should be good for you upon the Land which the Lord your God gives to you" (Deuteronomy 5:16).
___Another relevant verse from Leviticus: "Every man shall revere his mother and his father and you shall observe My Sabbaths; I am the Lord your God" (Leviticus 19:3). (It is interesting to note that the Torah commands us to observe the Sabbath in the same sentence as the commandment to honor one's father and mother. This is to clarify that the same Source which commands you to honor your father and mother commands you NOT to listen to them if they tell you to violate the Shabbat or any other mitzvah.)
___We see from these verses that there are two mitzvot (commandments): 1) To honor your parents and 2) To revere your parents. Love motivates one to do positive things; fear keeps one from transgressing the negative.
___What difference does it make if a child learns this principle as a commandment from God or he picks up his attitude towards parents from his society?
___A rabbi was sitting next to an atheist on an airplane. Every few minutes one of the rabbi's children or grandchildren would inquire if they could bring him something to eat or drink or if there was anything they could do for him. The atheist commented, "It's wonderful the respect your children and grandchildren show you; mine don't show me that respect." The rabbi responded, "Think about it. To my children and to my grandchildren, I am one step closer in a chain of tradition to the time when God spoke to the whole Jewish people on Mt. Sinai. To your children and grandchildren -you are one step closer to being an ape."
___Are children more inclined to respect their parents if they think they are one step closer to being an ape or if they believe that their parents are one step closer to being created by the Almighty who heard God speak?
___In the Torah perspective, a parent is a paradigm for relating to God. A parent loves his child unconditionally, sets boundaries, reproves, feeds his child though the child did wrong, wants only the best for his child. A parent is not always understood or appreciated and is sometimes suspect of not having the child's best interest at heart. (Mark Twain once commented, "When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned.") Hopefully, the children eventually appreciate their parent's motivation.
___If one does not show gratitude and respect to his parents who gave him life, how is he expected to show gratitude and respect for God who not only is a Partner in giving him life, but Who has given him the whole world? The Torah helps us train our children in how to relate to their parents and therefore how to relate to the Almighty.
___The Torah teaches us our obligations to our parents and our elders. It teaches us that we must stand up for our parents, a person with Torah knowledge or a person over 70 (if one has lived 70 years then he or she has wisdom about life - just through living). Our society? Note a recently seen bumper sticker: "Be good to your children. They choose your nursing home."
___How does one engender love and appreciation of children for parents? Where there is peace in the home, no arguing amongst the parents in front of the children, unconditional love, respect for each other, boundaries and consistency ... and values, there is a good chance that our children will have such warm feelings for us.
___The Almighty has implanted in parents an innate love for their children, but this does not lessen the Torah obligation to honor and respect one's parents. We must be grateful for the numerous acts of kindness that our parents have bestowed upon us. We have no right to minimize their efforts on our behalf by questioning their motives.
___Here are some basic halachot , (Jewish laws) instructing us how to treat our parents:
___Parents should make sure that their young children show respect towards them and others. If a young child forms the habit of being disrespectful to his parents or others, he will also lack respect when he grows up. (This is why I never let my children call adults by their first names even if my friends introduce themselves to my kids using just their first name.) The reward for honoring parents is long life. Therefore, if a parent sincerely loves his children, he should make sure that they fulfill this commandment!
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Torah Portion of the Week
Shabbat Chol HaMoed Sukkot
___This Shabbat we read a Special Torah Reading for Sukkot (which is also read on the second day of Sukkot), Leviticus 22:26 - 23:44 which begins with laws pertaining to the Temple offerings, korbonot. It then gives an overview of the Jewish moadim, appointed festivals: Shabbat, Pesach and the Omer offering of barley on the second day of Pesach, the counting of the days until Shavuot, the offerings on Shavuot, not to gather the gleanings of the harvest (they are left for the poor), Rosh Hashana and blowing the shofar, Yom Kippur, Succot and its offerings, and the commandment to wave the arba minim (the lulav, etrog, hadasim and aravot).
CANDLE LIGHTING - September 28
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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
The most important gifts
you can give your children
are roots and wings.
-- Lori Palatnik