Lech Lecha 5759

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Lech Lecha (Genesis 12-17 )

"Friendship is one heart in two
bodies."

Ibn Ezra (Torah commentator)

I will always remember that night. It was bitterly cold.
The front door of our house came crashing down. Three Nazi storm-troopers moved through like hounds chasing a fox.
They ordered my family into the waiting truck. My grandmother couldn't walk
well, so I tried to help her. One of the soldiers raised his rifle and thrust
her aside. I bent down to help and - thump! I was dazed. My father tried to
stop the soldier and - bang! I saw him fall by my side. In all the commotion I
was able to pick myself up and get away. From behind, I could hear my mother
shout, "Run! Run!"

I crawled into a
hiding place
in the garden. I heard one of the soldiers tell my mother to find
me or he would shoot the whole family. I don't know whether she didn't know
where I was, or whether she just pretended not to find me. I didn't know what
to do. At five years old, I was scared. I stayed put... and then I heard the
machine gun fire.

Fifty years later,
I met a man named Jack. We started talking about our lives and he mentioned
that he'd changed his last name, as I had, from an unpronounceable Polish. But
never did I think it was my older brother Jack! When we realized the tears
started to pour... Instinctively we hugged... The last time we saw each other
was that terror filled night, 50 years ago...

"How did you escape?" I asked.

"They shot me and I fell down." Jack showed me his
false arm. "I don't know what happened after that, but they must have left
me for dead. All I remember is waking up in our neighbor's house. They hid me
until the end of the war."

"But what of you," Jack said to me. "You have become a very hardened man. These
last few days, before I realized you were my brother, you treated me very
coldly."

"I don't like people, Jack...After the war I turned
against people and mankind. But you are
my brother, Jack.
I can trust you."

" I don't understand," Jack said, "I am the
same man you knew yesterday. Does the commonality of our blood make me a better
a person today than yesterday?"

I sat motionless and cried. The world stood still for a
moment, a moment that seemed like all eternity. If only I could look at every human being as my long lost brother...

TWO PARTS OF THE WHOLE

"Behold, how good and how pleasant it is

when brothers dwell together in unity."

- Psalms 133:1

Division from others is a bitter, devastating and often
unnecessary self-affliction. It saps our strength as a nation and divides us as
individuals. The many battles we wage are unnecessary, for neither side benefits. Yet, we keep on with this needless crusade.

If you're slicing something and accidentally cut your
finger, do you take the knife and cut
your other hand in revenge?
Of course not. Why? Because your other hand is
part of you, too.

When we appreciate that we are all one people, then
hurting the other guy - paying him back - is as ridiculous as hurting yourself.
That's why the Torah says: Love your neighbor "as yourself." If I realize
that me and the other person are part of the same unit, then hurting another
person is as silly as cutting my other hand with the knife.

A PARENT'S BLESSING

In this week's parsha, Jacob is about to die and wants to
bless Joseph's two sons, Ephraim and Menashe. Jacob says, "The Jewish
people will use you as a blessing. They will say, 'May God make you like Ephraim and Menashe'" (Genesis 48:20).
Until today, it is the custom every Friday night to bless our sons with this
blessing.

But who were Ephraim and Menashe that they received such
an honor above Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, etc?

The answer is revealed in how Jacob blesses Ephraim and
Menashe. He places the younger before
the older.
Joseph is dismayed, concerned this will cause sibling rivalry.
After all, Joseph was well aware of the need to show equality to all; years
earlier he'd been sold into slavery because of sibling rivalry.

This is precisely the intent of Jacob's blessing. He was
testing Ephraim and Menashe, to see if their father appreciated this lesson and
could pass it on. The result? The two boys show no enmity after this change of
natural order. They accept it as an
honest evaluation of who they are.

Jacob thus says: It is this that all parents will wish for
their children. Unity amongst siblings gladdens the heart and bringing joy to a
parent's eyes. More than money, wisdom or health, the wish is that that they should be unified, without suspicion or
jealousy. All else are steps on this ladder, and all else becomes tarnished by
the brush of disunity.

On a deeper level, this is the Almighty's wish for his children, humanity.

THE PRICE OF UNITY

We are willing to be brothers with everyone if everyone
would only agree with us. "If only they would listen to me, then world
peace could surely be achieved."

We all think it's the other guy's fault. "It is they
who cannot be trusted... If only people were as honest as I." This is
actually an excuse because we don't really want to try!

If this was truly our long lost brother, we would try. We
would be open, we would give our time, we
would listen.
We would even withhold accusations and admonishments when he
was wrong! Look at the times you stood up for someone you liked even in the
face of obvious indiscretions. Yet lesser faults bring torrents of scorn for
those that we deem unfit for our grace. Why?

Because when we want it to work, we control our
inclinations.

It's a lonely world.
If we don't put in the effort,
relationships soon wither and die. But how often
do we let them die when our mood swings from a different breeze. Long, close and
meaningful friends are a rare breed. Try treating all people as our long lost
brothers - to endear them to us, and us to them.

You might say: "But maybe he will cheat me as
brothers do sometimes." So if it's your long lost brother, it's worth it, you'll take the risk. You will try and
work it out when he does something you don't like; you will try and make him
more honest.

WHAT IS A TRUE
FRIEND?

Part of the Jewish concept of a friend is that he's part
of you. You will do almost anything for each other.

Consider this hypothetical situation: How many people do
you know who would help you out if you phoned them and said, "I got in big
trouble and I really need your help now." Consider this carefully to see who is a true friend.

Start treating others with greater care and respect. Think
of three things you would do if you found out your neighbor was really your
long lost brother. Play it out. You
will see that looking at people in this way and treating them differently opens
you up to a new world of real people. Try it!

BRAINSTORMING QUESTIONS TO PONDER


Question 1:
What is your definition
of a friend?
Ask you friends this question and try to reach a consensus.

Question 2: According
to your definition, how many friends
do you actually have?

Question 3: Are
you involved in any ongoing dispute
with friends or relatives? How could you resolve this?

But if God had created such a complete human being, why
the later separation into two parts, into Adam and Eve?

The answer given is that God did not want this first human
creation to be alone, for it would then possess an illusion of
self-sufficiency. Note that there is no word for "independence" in classical
Hebrew. (What we use now, atzma'ut,
is of modern vintage.) The concept of independence doesn't exist in Jewish
tradition. Aside from God, nothing and no one is really independent.
Since we are supposed to
ingrain into ourselves that God is the source of everything, self-sufficiency
would have been a spiritual defeat.

God wanted to fashion the human being into two separate
people in order to create a healthy situation of dependence, yearning, and
mutual giving. Human beings are not meant to be alone because then they would
have no one to give to, no one to grow with, and nothing to strive for. To
actualize oneself spiritually, a human being cannot be alone.

WHY NOT IDENTICAL TWINS?

But
why, then, didn't God create two identical beings? The answer is that in order
to maximize giving, the recipient must be different from the giver. If the two
are identical, giving can occur, but it is limited. One would give based on his
or her own needs, since the receiver would have the exact same needs. To truly
be a giver, the person must take into account what the receiver needs and not
only what the giver wants. By giving to someone with different needs, a person
is trained to think and give on terms other than his or her own.

We see, then, that the separation had to be into two
different beings, in order for us to learn to appreciate, love, give, and care
for those unlike ourselves.

This is fundamental to all moral and spiritual growth. We
can also understand why God didn't just create two beings from the start: by
starting as one, we can know and feel that our life partners are our true
complement, that we need them and their differences just as they need us and
ours.

GENDER DIFFERENCES

The
Torah is a path to self-actualization to spiritual growth. We have seen that in
order to grow, a person cannot be alone. Therefore two beings were created. To
maximize growth, the beings need to be different,
and so men and women were created as different
beings. But what are these differences?

In the creation story told in the Book of Genesis, the way
in which God separates man and woman provides us with an insightful look at
gender differences. We will briefly discuss here some of the most powerful of
these. Note that the feminine-masculine polarities we will discuss do not apply
exactly the same way to each man and woman -- we were all created as unique
individuals. However, what the Torah describes does exist for everyone to some
degree.

I'm not against a room at the Ritz. I'd love a room at the
Ritz. But we need to separate the icing from the cake. The externals are the
icing. We don't want a fancy icing over a cake that spoils too quickly.

And of course, you need chemistry. It's vital to the life
of your relationship, but it's neither the first nor the determinative factor.

Life throws us many wrinkles. A marriage based on chemistry
and romance won't meet the challenge. But a relationship based on shared goals
and values, on good character and deep sincere caring can weather any storm.

So go ahead. Do something for your spouse on February
14th -- give a gift, a card, do a special act
of kindness, make breakfast, take out the garbage. But do it also on the 15th,
the 16th, the 17th, the 18th, the 19th ...
it's the only way to keep real love alive.

Had they understood
that every single thing comes as a result of God's assistance, then they would
have surely asked God for fear of Heaven, too.

This demonstrated a
lack of gratitude and appreciation for all that God had done until then.

This desire to ignore
God's role in our accomplishments and take credit for ourselves is what makes
people say "This I can do, and this I can't." We avoid having to
acknowledge that it's all a gift. We'd rather feel that we fought and
accomplished on our own steam. So we say "I can't" -- when we'd
rather not make the effort to do something difficult.

If we were truly
grateful, if every morning we would thank the Almighty for our eyes, our hands,
our brain, then we'd also thank the Almighty for insight and understanding, and
we'd say, "Almighty, please give me more!" If we acknowledge that
every accomplishment is from God, then we will realize there is nothing we
cannot undertake... if God gives us the power.

RESPONSIBILITY
TO CHANGE THE WORLD

What can one person
do? One person can accomplish anything and everything -- since it's all a gift
from God anyway! Now we can understand why the Torah obligates each and every
one of us to change the world.

The Code of Jewish Law
(O.C. 1:3) says: "It is proper for all those who fear God to constantly be
in pain and worry over the destruction of the Holy Temple." But why should
we be expected to feel pain over something that happened 2,000 years ago?

The Talmud says:
"Any generation in which the Holy Temple is not rebuilt, is held
responsible for its destruction." In other words, if we don't take
responsibility for improving ourselves and changing the world, then we are just
as guilty as those whose deeds caused the Temple to be destroyed.

What can we do about
it? Says the Talmud (Yoma 86b): "If one person does a sincere teshuva
(return to God), then the whole world merits forgiveness."

The Jewish nation is
one unit. Therefore the actions of one person can change the fate of the entire
group. You -- one solitary individual -- have the power to change the entire
world through teshuva. And since you have the power ... you also have the
responsibility.

OPIATE OF THE
MASSES?

Marx said that
"religion is the opiate of the masses." But Marx was talking about
the religion that says: "Resist not evil, turn the other cheek."

Judaism, on the other
hand, teaches people to stand up and take responsibility for the world. If
anything, secularism is the opiate because it breeds inactivity.

Imagine asking the
conquering Romans, "The Greeks are starving to death, isn't that
terrible?" They'd say, "What are you talking about, that's the
greatest news we've heard all week! Let's get the war machine out!"

Ask a typical college
student: "Isn't it terrible that Africans are starving to death? What are
you going to do about it?" He says, "What can I do about it? Who am
I? I'm only one person. I can't do anything about it."

Without really
believing in God, you'll just give up.

Judaism says you can
do something. If you believe God's doing it all, if you see how much He's
already done for you, then you know that God will help.

All you have to do is
take the responsibility and make an effort. God will take care of the rest.

WE TRY, GOD
DELIVERS

 

Have you ever seen a
building under construction? The builders use cranes to pick up an entire
truckload of bricks, and then one or two men put their hands under the derrick
and push the truckload into the right place.

An idiot sees two guys
pushing a truckload of bricks and he thinks they're as strong as Hercules. A
wise man person understands it's the crane that's moving.

The Torah says
explicitly that in the end of days, the Jewish people are going to return to
God. And that's already happening.

The Jews have returned
to Israel, which is mind-boggling. We've witnessed incredible miracles in
Israel -- whether the War of Independence, the Six Day War, the Gulf War. We've
lived with miracles. The Almighty is bringing us home. The crane is moving.

People sometimes say,
"I'd love to make aliyah to Israel, but I don't have the money."
What's the solution? I tell them, put one dollar a week into a separate bank
account. They look at me like I'm crazy. "What are you talking about - that's
$52 a year. In 10 years, I'll have $520. What will that do for me?!" I tell
them, if you put in a dollar a week, the Almighty will see that you're sincere
and He'll take care of the rest.

Those of you who've
begun learning Torah or keeping Shabbos: Remember how hard it was when you
first started? Now when you look back and see the progress you've made, isn't
it true that you were putting one dollar in the bank? You were making the
effort, and the Almighty led you to your goal.

THE BUCKET
AND THE MOUNTAIN

The Midrash says the
wise person and the fool are both told, "Take this Torah and learn it
all." The fool looks at the Torah and says, "That's like trying to
move a mountain into the sea! Even if I work all day and night, I couldn't
possibly finish it " So what does he do? He fills one bucket of dirt, and
then he lies down to go to sleep.

The wise person says,
"I get paid by the bucket. If I make an effort, I get paid. I can't
imagine how I'm going to move this mountain into the sea, but if the Almighty
said do it, I might as well try." So he takes a bucket and puts it in the
sea; another bucket and puts it into the sea; another bucket ...

"Hey, meshugena,
what are you doing?" yells the fool.

"Listen, I'm
getting paid," answers the wise person. And he keeps going. Another bucket
into the sea. Until he comes to a stone. He pushes that stone which starts a
landslide and the whole mountain crumbles and flows into the sea.

That's what we're
doing. One dollar a week. The mountain will go into the sea.

God is your father,
creator of this universe. He wants to give you everything. By making the
effort, you're allowing Him to do it. You're accepting it. See how much He's
done for you until now. He wants to do much more. Just keep on putting that
bucket into the sea; one dollar a week in the bank. The rewards are waiting.

GOD GAVE US
THE ABILITY

The Torah says that
accomplishing all of Torah is near to us, very much within our reach (Deut.
30:14).

Our problem is that we
don't want to try. We don't make the effort.

If you heard about a
business opportunity that would bring you millions, is there any limit to how
far you'd go to make it work? If I said I'd give you a million dollars if
you'll memorize one page of the phone book by next week, could you do it?

Realize that the
reward for even one mitzvah is worth more than anything you can earn in this
world. So don't look at the effort as a pain; look at it as an opportunity. You
have the ability to be great, and there's nothing better you can do with your
energy.

The Midrash (Tanna
d'Bei Eliyahu) tells the story of Elijah the Prophet meeting up with a
fisherman. "Do you study Torah?" Elijah asked. "No," replied the fisherman,
"I'm just a simple man. I am not endowed with any measure of talent or
intelligence."

"Tell me," said
Elijah, "how do you prepare your fishing net?" "Well," said the man, "It's
actually quite complicated. First I have to select the proper gauge rope, and
then I have to weave the net in a particular pattern to ensure that it has the
proper balance of strength and flexibility."

"How do you go about
actually catching the fish?" inquired Elijah. "Oh," said the man, "that, too,
is quite complex. There are many factors involved -- including season of the
year, time of day, type of fish, water depth, temperature, and speed of the current."

"When you get to
heaven," said Elijah, "you will testify that you didn't study Torah study
because you're just a simple man, not endowed with any talent or intelligence?
But do you think He gave you the brains to be a fisherman -- but not the brains
to learn Torah?!"

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