Rise Above Trivial Aspects of Honor
It is ridiculous how some people are concerned about trivial aspects of "honor." For example, a person may refuse to visit a friend or relative, because they feel the other person should come to him first. Or they become angry if they visit someone and that person does not repay the visit.
Focus on being practical. If you would like to speak to someone, what does it matter if he did not come to you first?